We all want our love stories to be romantic and passionate, incredible reproductions of hollywood tales of danger, commitment, and triumph. We want to believe that our love is unlike any love that has ever been felt by any of the 107 billion people who have ever existed. We want to believe that what we have is unique, special, and exclusive.
We say things like: “I love you forever. I would do anything for you. You are the only one for me. I would die without you. You’re the most amazing person I have ever known. I’m so glad that I finally found you.”
These sentiments are plentiful during a fresh relationship. Early infatuation and the passion that comes with it is certainly a wonderful experience. It is after a year or two of relationship that the trouble comes, as, many times, in the absence of these hyperbolic attestations and loin-girding emotions, a couple feels as though their love has died.
What happened? Nothing to worry about, in my opinion. Continue reading